More About #Branding

If you expected this blog entry to be about cigar branding scarification, move on. That opening is an example of my creative brand: sexual, edgy and funny. A lot of my poetry about queer sex walks that line, & mostly successfully. It’s such a strong brand, in fact, that when I step put of it people are disappointed. Get over it.

This is the other level of branding – the product itself – a product that can sustain itself without the writer being there but which usually can have greater resonance with the writer in person.

fence03 over wrought

The one question I get asked most often about my writing is ‘What sort of things do you write about?’ I never know where to start or how to narrow the focus to a simple answer. Growing up gay, being a queer adult, family, childhood, media, music, aging, relationships, in your pants raunch – of course the moment one says queer they assume everything I write is about that, as opposed to coming to things from that perspective. There’s more to laugh than sex – there’s shirts, right.

fence02 that’s wrought

I also write short fiction: scary, queer – sometimes both at the same time. Three novels under my belt (soon to be Smashworded).

My blog shows more sides of me as a person. This year I set out to make it even more rounded by adding the Monday Music component; making Wednesday the day I write about writing by explaining the thoughts behind specific pieces; Friday I bather on about anything. Plus the occasional bonus review.

fence01 can’t make the wrought move

Not to forget the photographs – mostly taken by myself on my walks & travels. I also include up coming events such as conferences (Bloody Words), events (FanExpo) or plays I’m going to see. I used to include spokenword shows I was going to attend but sometimes I didn’t make it; besides I’m not Facebook). Always list my rare up coming features. Part of the brand is performance.


August 28-31 – attending – FanExpo Canada


October 19 – feature – Cabaret Noir – Welcome to Lake Pinebow


sample don’t let the sample scare you

Slap Unhappy


my masochist lover wants to leave

I’m not causing him enough pain

he’s tired of merely being ashamed

of being seen with me in public

he needs more domestic humiliation


I reminded him

it wasn’t my fault he needed an audience

in order to feel the depths of abasement

that got him off

besides I have rotator cuff tears from

spanking him every time

the dishes weren’t cleared away fast enough

testicular torture

aggravates my Carpel tunnel syndrome

tennis elbow from fisting

doesn’t get me off at all


the constant stream of abuse

I had to supply him with was so draining

I had no spite left

for people who really deserved it

like that asshole barista

who couldn’t make a latte

without a shake of cinnamon

I told him twice no cinnamon

and when it came with a dash

a sense of futility

flooded me with each sip

of that fucking latte

I had no choice but to go home

and take it out on my masochistic lover

but that wasn’t enough for him


now my masochistic lover wants

to leave

because I don’t make him suffer enough

he feels I don’t care when I hurt him

that I’m not into the brick-weighted nipple clamps

into the cigar branding scarification


He says I do those things

with too much detachment

I ask him why my not caring

doesn’t add to his sense of being abused

isn’t it worse when the abuser

does it out of boredom

and not out of passion


once he packed up his latex

I slapped him goodbye

then shut the door

gate what has rust wrought

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