‘the brawl of the kiss’


‘the brawl of the kiss’ Dylan Thomas

I can’t say what I mean

because if I say what I mean

you might not understand it

because said and understood

are two different things

I might say

I want to see you

you might hear

I want to own you

or I think of you sometimes


why don’t you think me all the time

our language is at odds with our intents

I want to talk you

into telling me what I want to hear

in a way that is totally clear

unalterable and fulfilling

so when we are together

I can’t say what I mean

because all I want

is the brawl of the kiss

to end this fight of the mind

which it always does

I let my fears surrender

to the delight of the body

our bodies

as they struggle to reach through

the fight of the mind

to embrace each other

we wrestle each other

in the cauldron of his bed

where we understand exactly

what each other means needs wants

out of this brawl of the kiss


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This a piece from 2014 inspired as the title says by Dylan Thomas. The image come from his poem ‘Unluckily For A Death’ (http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/unluckily-for-a-death/). I have his complete poems & read it aloud, cover to cover every other year. He’s always been a major influence on me and each time read him I get a greater sense of his meaning. One thing he taught me is that understand isn’t as important as savouring an image.

Like my piece last week, *Beep*, this one is about the need to be heard even as one struggles to say the words. It’s also a meditation on the war between pleasure for the sake of pleasure with the need to be sincere, authentic.


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Some of the struggle here is the baggage of expectations ego brings in to play – of how the need to be appear more emotionally evolved/involved we ether say what we think will get what we want or fear to say it lest the other person takes it the wrong way. You know like pretending to be in political agreement just to get a bj then having to decline donating to their political party.


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Or thinking just excuse you have great chemistry in bed you’ll both like the same obscure Italian horror movies but you’ll put with Leo DiCaprio to humor them anyway. A little compromise always makes the brawl feel like the sacrifice is worth it. Right? Also never tell them you are a poet or you’ll end up having to proof read their unpublished novel – trust me, it’s better to say no than maybe.


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