#TheSexRadicals, Part 5: Amber Hollibaugh & Edward Carpenter on Letting Go of Sexual Shame

Conner Habib

AH Amber Hollibaugh

Each week this summer, I’ll be posting short essays on sexual thinkers (read the introduction to the series here) who have changed my perspective on sex, and who, I believe, could be instrumental in helping us remake Western sexual culture. It will include some bits about my own life, some history, and some controversial claims. Last week was a tour through the sexual utopia of Charles Fourier.  The series also appears on RealitySandwich.com.

How To Fight Sexual Shame: Amber Hollibaugh, Edward Carpenter, and the Strength of Vulnerability

“Wherever you have a secret, that is where you are vulnerable.”

– Amber Hollibaugh (1946-present)

A story about shame.

My first two years of college were spent in a Western Pennsylvania town, huddled in the woods.  “It’s near Pittsburgh,” I’d say, though the truth was, it wasn’t near anything; Pittsburgh was an hour and a half…

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One thought on “#TheSexRadicals, Part 5: Amber Hollibaugh & Edward Carpenter on Letting Go of Sexual Shame

  1. “To undo sexual shame, Carpenter advised, understand it’s not indicating a course of action. Understand, also, that it’s not bonded to the sex act so much as the frantic cultural impulses surrounding the sex act. It’s usually a feeling misdirected from somewhere else. Letting going of shame allows space for sex and pleasure themselves to guide you to your perspective on sex and pleasure. When you do that, sex has a different feel. ” – um…WOW. :-). On the flip side though, this worries me as it may be used to justify the sexual mishandling of children…I see where a pedophile would twist this to his or her defense. Perhaps I need to re-read the post and process it a bit more. Either way, this was mind opening. Thank’s for sharing it.

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