Arts and Misery

A friend of mine was recently very involved in a major TO arts exposition. He discovered that the administrators were more focused on their vision than they were of asking (& then listening to) what the artists might want. This is similar to what happens at Pride, in which corporate issues now seem to trump grassroots – unless those are Roots Canada grass roots.22ochair01I can’t tell you the number of times people ask me my opinions only to launch into theirs. I can’t recall the last time someone asked me about a poem I’m working on or have posted – they are more interested how I write not what I write. I’ve been asked about gay marriage (how old hat is that now, anyway) & then I’m told what a great step forward it is. When I point out that gay teens are still being cyber bullied into suicide they react as if I’m not showing enough gratitude. When I say Orlando resulted in #outrage not action I’m merely cynical & unappreciative. 22ochair02One of my blog mates (Dana Ellington) recently put a call out for her followers to talk about their daily lives & not their pr lives or their issue lives but their mundane lives. The response has been middling mainly, I think, because no one wants to admit how mundane their lives are. My blog life is rarely a wild ride of roller coaster emotions & shocking revelations or even pointed political commentary. It’s usually an opportunity for me talk about what I want to talk about without someone butting in with their more important, glamorous stuff.22ochair03Here I can talk about sex & not be silenced & shamed by anyone. You think that doesn’t happen – well, think again. As I’ve mentioned I’ve been to mixed gender, sexualities, queer events where being an out, white, cismale, queer makes some feel unsafe. wtf. I guess I’m just a typical faggot after all.22ochair04I also can’t tell you the number of times various TO arts expositions have invited me to perform for free because it would good exposure – apparently the budgets only cover the salaries of the organizers.


Misery Loves An Audience

we’ll get together

when you are in a better mood

I’m bored of your problems

it’s as simple as that

it’s almost

as if your trying to see

if you can bring me down

but that’s not going to happen


misery loves an audience and I’m no longer

willing to be the audience for your misery

of course I still like you

it’s not a matter of like

yes you deserve to be heard

to be listened to

but I’ve heard enough

I don’t need to hear any more

if you focused on the positive

perhaps things would improve for you

so call me back

when you are in a better mood

not the bitter one

you present most of the time


yes I know

this makes me just all all the others

the ones who had no time for you

who got fed up

with your never ending crisis

where the solution to one disaster

only made something else worse


no I don’t want you to kill yourself

but if you chose to

don’t blame me for that choice

in fact don’t even mention me in the note

as one of the few people

who were concerned for you

because that’ll be another way of saying

we failed you

that I failed you

that life failed you


if that’s true

I can live with it

even if you can’t


cover170x170-1on going 🙂 when new podcast are posted:  Deliciously iTunes

September 1-4: attending FanExpo 2016 (I’ve already registered)


November 1 – 30 Participating NaNoWriMo



June 2-4: attending: Capturing Fire 2017 –


check out these poets from Capturing Fire 2015:


Hey! Now you can give me $$$ to defray blog fees & buy coffee in Washington – sweet,eh?

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