The Bad Queer

In a recent Deliciously Disabled podcast Andrew Gurza talks about not being a top or a bottom & how confusing that is for some folks. Partly because of his physicality he strives to be a sexual being undefined by hetero-normative coding. He’s not androgynous, a-gender or even non-binary – he’s a male sexual entity that enjoys other male sexual entities. In other words he’s a bad queer who refuses to fit any expectations – the fact that he’s disabled & sexual already goes against the grain of desexualizing anyone isn’t standard issue.12box01On gay male cruising sites profiles one is given a set of options for what one is into, desires, positions: top, top versatile, versatile, bottom versatile, bottom. There are now some sites that also allow for trans but haven’t refined that to which direction that trans is taking. Cross dressers can also find a space to check on some sites (though most cross dressers aren’t queer). Vac-pump even gets a nod.12box02Already I have digressed from my original intent – to talk about why I am a bad queer – I’m not a credit to my kind, to my age, to … well, you get the picture. I have been shamed for my lack of sensitivity to factions in the binary gender war for being too cis; by the pro-marriage queers for be sexually active outside of my prime relationship – for not accepting the notion that fidelity a scared, profound & authentic reflection of my ethics – shamed for not letting my age de-sexualize me.12box03I’m even disregarded as a poet because I don’t have enough trauma to justify my even being a writer. Good queers have real childhood abuse issues to authentic their needed for the security of a committed relationship.12box04The need for top, bottom classifications produces its own set of qualifications – if you are a power bottom that is good, masculinity goes unquestioned – in fact there are top who will only fuck masculine rugged he-men who are under forty or at least well-hung — no fats or fems for them. Cock size & age mean little to me – once again I’m the bad queer.

The final mark against me is that I am happy to be me. Good queers are never self-accepting until someone tells them they are good queers.


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November 1 – 30 Participating NaNoWriMo


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check out these poets from Capturing Fire 2015:


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