Accountability – Playground 3

After a bracing walk in the rain I got back to the Playground for the 10:30 session: Embracing Discomfort: Striving to Be an Ally in Alternative Communities with Ness and Ten – which looked at, amongst many things, pro-active support as opposed to the White Knight syndrome or worse yet the Photo-Op ally: I want to be seen marching with you (because it will be good for my on-line profile). Often being an ally means being willing to be the one to get coffees when needed. Allies don’t need to be on the front line to be allies.

After the lunch break I took in Talking About It: Porn Literacy as Media Literacy with Kate Sinclaire. It looked at things such as porn as a way of exploring sexuality with anonymity. Though I’m not sure how anonymous anyone is on the Internet but … She also stressed the need for people to realize that entertainment does not reflect reality. There is a difference between taste & morality. She believes that this current move to ban porn will be as successful as Prohibition. After all porn goes into schools killing innocent teens by addicting them to chronic masturbation.

I followed that with #MeToo – Accountability Workshop for Men with Jeff Perera – the longest of the workshops in which we discussed the impact men have/had on other genders. Conversations ranged from consent, toxic masculinity to merely being sensitive rather than dismissive of things we haven’t experienced as men. When holding a mirror to the world make sure you are reflected in it too. I would have liked something about how to hold men accountable for their treatment of other men as well. This was a session that didn’t want to end.

Sadly I was so drained by doing back-to-back sessions I was too pooped to take in the Closing Plenary 😦 I certainly enjoyed the opportunity to hear  from people invested in change, both in themselves & the culture we live in. I also enjoyed being a stranger. I saw no one that I knew, except when I looked in the mirror.


My Playground 2018 posts:

First Day at the Playground

Playground 2 – The #Mindful #Kiss

He Hot

ye ha

he hot you know

he’s got

that eye catching bod-o-god

strong hands

hairy wrists

some meat on his bones

some muscle on those shoulders

broad of beam

fills out those jeans

feet firmly planted on the floor

legs that can carry more than a conversation

a smile that opens doors

that cracks the combination

of even the most protected dreams

eyes that twinkle

even when he’s asleep


ye ha

he hot you know

he got

all the time in the world

for the right one and only

the living breathing embodiment

of all the little quirks and perks

you think a man ought to have

he got all that and a bag of chips

and you just want to be the dip

the salsa

the slurp and slide answer

to all his silent prayers for satisfaction


ye ha

he’s hot you know

he got shit that don’t stink

he can get the TV to mute

with a look

he got no unkind things to say about anyone

he just gets in there

rolls his sleeves up

and does what it takes

he got the solution to every little problem

he got the whole world in a wink


ye ha

he hot

so hot my temperature goes up

just knowing he’s in the room

don’t even have to turn around

I feel that wave engulf everyone

a syrupy swath of all embracing bliss

as he walks past me

he got friends coming out the ying yang

everyone knows his name

he got drinks sent from around the world to his table

he got his tab paid for

by someone who chose to remain nameless


ye ha

he hot you know

hot to trot

hotter than hell

but he don’t want my eyes on him

March 8, Thursday – Hot Damn! It’s A Queer Slam Slam: 8 pm Buddies In Bad Times Theatre Feature D’Scribe

HotDamn! It’s A Queer Slam

April 03 – every Tuesday

June 8-9 – Capturing Fire 2018 – Washington D.C. (flight & hotel already booked) 

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