The nature of the podcasts I listen to has changed over the years. I started with various writing podcasts, added a few ‘social commentary’ but eventually got bored with them. Let’s face it I could hear so much about world building or about conspiracy theories. I stopped listening to all of them.
Then I came across Andrew Gurza (http://www.andrewgurza.com/homepage ) on some gay dating site. His profile mentioned he had a podcast which has since become Disability After Dark – shining a bright light on sex & disability. On it he talks explicitly about sexuality – gay, straight, other as it relates to various disabilities: autism, visual impairment, mobility limits & more.
I’ve heard nearly episode. His fearlessness & the articulateness of his frequent guests continue to make me aware of importance of representation in media, of myths about disability & has been sexy enough sometimes it forced me to take cold shower 🙂
Another podcast I now listen to is Buffering The Vampire Slayer (https://www.bufferingthevampireslayer.com ) – on which two lesbians (Jenny Owen Youngs, Kristin Russo) have been watching & discussing each Buffy episode in detail. They’ve also interviewed past cast members, stunt people & hard-core fans. I found them after I had started watching a box set of the entire series. I’m into season 6 & they have just finished season 4. The hosts are fun to listen to, & I look forward to each episode – usually every other week. They inspire me to be a proud cult nerd. A great podcast even if you aren’t a Buffy fan.
Another podcast is Fan Critical (https://www.fancritical.com ) – I started listening to them last year during the run of Castlerock – a collective of men, women in Britain & Australia discussing series such at Walking Dead, event movies such as Avengers: End Game. Initially the Castlerock was enough for me & it certainly helped me enjoy the series. After Castlerock ended the podcast continue looking at other Steven King adaptations.
Also under the Fan Critical umbrella is the Worst of Netflix – hilarious reviews of bad movies. I love it. I’ve also listening to their discussions of some event movies & frankly, no matter how they rave, I’ve not bothered seeing these movies 🙂
Most recent listening addition has been Gayish (http://www.gayishpodcast.com/ ). A couple of gay guys (Mike Johnson, Kyle Getz) chat over drinks. They talk about everything & each episode is focused on a single topic: i.e. Boobs, undies. Not laser focused though, as they stray into tangents often. Sex positive, often hilarious & well-researched. As with the Buffering hosts – they have an easy rapport that is inviting & enjoyable. I sort of envy them their friendships & their willingness to listen to each other.
I subscribe to them via iTunes but they can be found on most podcast platforms. I support Disability After Dark & Gayish via Patreon. Try them out if you aren’t following any of these podcast already.
an older piece that the Gayish podcast on Boobs brought to mind:
Hooterville
the one area I feel empathy
for straight guys is cleavage
where are you supposed to look
when caught up in this barrage of boob
focus on her eyes if you can
and hope she doesn’t perceive the wavering flickers
as you try not to get drawn down
it is easy to see how women
become objectified
even when they object to it
how to pretend she isn’t pretty
that you find attractive attractive
without being demonized
without being brow beaten
by breasts for being such a beast
there’s no way of making up for it
no apology
no affirmative action
takes away the taint of having a dick
of having two competing heads to think with
of being faulted
for thinking with the wrong one
regardless of which one is being used
of being opportunistic slaves to our base instinct
all men are guilty
no way out no absolution
to be hormonally driven dick heads
is punishment enough
I have this simmering empathy
when I get caught as straight men often do
in décolletage
try to make conversation
as subtle light shifts with each motion
as she pushes her hair behind her ear
try to focus on her words
try to ignore non-verbal communication
I’ve never heard a guy tell a woman
‘stop looking at my package
my eyes are up here’
yeah I know
but the eyes are the window to the soul
and I don’t think either of us is
ready to go there
every Tuesday 2019
July
Stratford Festival – Nathan The Wise
August 2-13: getting back to my roots in Cape Breton
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September
Shaw Festival – Sex (Mae West)
Stratford Festival – Little Shop Of Horrors
2020
June 2020 – Capturing Fire 2020 – Washington D.C. capfireslam.org
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