One of the men I see frequently recently celebrated his birthday. He is much younger than me. As are most of the men I am intimate with – part of that is the aging process, part of that is that many men around my age won’t have sex with men around my age. I’m not that concerned with age, though I do find over-30 is a reasonable boundary – but younger is fine if they fit some of my preferences 🙂
I’m only thinking about the age gap because the hosts of Gayish podcast, on an earlier podcast, tangent-talked about what the youngest & oldest person they’ve been intimate with & another time talked about when was too old to go clubbing (apparently 30 is the cut off age for clubbing). Both of them concluded that more than 10 year older or younger, was the limit for either of them. What they don’t realize is that the older you get the less restricted the age limit will become.
In North American culture ageism is unavoidable – often the notion of an older person with some clearly involved someone younger is seen as a joke, ‘no fool like an old fool,’ ‘I hope the money is good.’ Even I find it creepy in movies to see the older male star become the romantic object of a much younger female star. Is she looking for a daddy figure, a sugar daddy, or merely a more sexually experienced partner? Or is some writer indulging his own sex fantasy?
I’ve blogged about some of this before – the way sexually active seniors are viewed as perverts of some sort or denied any right to be sexual – at your age you should be over all that. Though I’m not sure what age is ‘your age.’ Not that I see myself as a senior either 🙂
This is a piece I’ve performed many times. The gap represents a pause I take when I do the piece & nearly every time there has been an audible gasp from someone in the audience.
Boyfriend
I’m so excited
I have a new boy friend
he’s barely fifteen
years younger than me
did that pause catch you off guard
were you sure I was going to say
he was only fifteen years old
was it hard enough to think of a man
having a boyfriend at all
then add to it
the shudder that it was
an innocent
emotionally underdeveloped
fifteen year old child
though I can remember me at fifteen
jacking off to visions of rock star cock
Jimi Hendrix Bruce Springsteen
that I wished there in my bed
telling you too much am I
get used to it
I’ve heard enough straight poets go on
sparing no intimate details
about blissful raspberry nipples
moist peach fuzzed mounds
so I’ll talk about man on man action
even if it makes some of you restless
a bit bored a bit threatened
girl on girl would make you more comfortable
I usually try to make the nestling
of men’s bodies into each other
sound sort of sweet and tender
pulling myself away
from the gasp grasp of sweat pubic hair
so I’m excited
about my new boyfriend
though I hate ‘boyfriend’
boy carries that too young taint
man friend isn’t close
lover is more complex
than it is at this point
bed buddy yeah I like that
I have a new bed buddy
he’s nearly fifteen
years younger than me
every Tuesday 2019
July
Stratford Festival – Nathan The Wise
August 2-13: getting back to my roots in Cape Breton 
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Shaw Festival – Sex (Mae West)
Stratford Festival – Little Shop Of Horrors
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