Gift

Gift

what am I accepting

when I accept this gift

is it a sign of an emotional bond

one that I’m not interested in

that I haven’t instigated

it’s not that I don’t like you

but I’m not that invested

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I know the gift comes from a good place

that one cannot have too many friends

but at the same time

one can be 

shall we say 

discerning

the gift comes without strings

I can accept it

say thanks

but never 

you shouldn’t have

Actually that last line is a lie. I said ‘you shouldn’t have’ recently when someone I handed me a bottle wine as a Christmas gift. Being a non-drinker I declined as graciously as possible. He was more distressed at not knowing me well enough to realize I don’t drink. It never came up in the context of our friendship. Neither of us ever needed a few to loosen up.

I am a fairly generous guy partly because of recovery – one of the slogans is ‘to keep it you have to give it away’ Recovery continues by sharing it with ours when called to do so. Though the thing with gifts is often the the strings are attached by the getter not the giver. The kind gesture is mistaken for something more promising. 

People project an agenda when there isn’t one & then get sort of huffy when there isn’t one. So as a giver I’ve become a little more aware of what I give to avoid unnecessary complications. Socks are a fun neutral gift, underwear, though fun, is not so neutral, a jockstrap is fun but clearly not neutral. A wrestling singlet? Well, that’s a whole different blog post.

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