Late Again

Late Again

while she was sharing

he was late again

the meeting had already started

he entered quietly

nodded apologetically

found a seat

after squeezing past

people already seated

took off his coat

put it on the back of his chair

sat & sighed apologetically



how sorry he was to be late

to disrupt the meeting

to have all eyes on him

she fumed

while we waited for him

to get settled

so the meeting could resume


he had

once again

sucked all the attention to him

he was an attention seeking sponge

always late

making a quiet entrance

acting as if he was sorry

while was thriving on the attention

she deserved

but was unwilling to be as obvious

in getting it

Don’t let genders distress you too much as I’ve seen this scenario play out many times with positions reversed & with same genders in both roles but to keep things simple I chose she & he. Attention seekers show up in this way in many settings: recovery meetings, writing workshops, even spokenword events (there they think whispered apologies allow them to disrupt whomever is performing on stage).

I sometimes think the late-comer doesn’t even realize that they are attention seeking but there are just bad at time management & if we don’t like it then the problem is ours for being demanding, over-sensitive perfectionists. Writing about this piece reminds me of a monthly writers workshop I tried many years ago.

The first part was for introductions & various publishing announcements & questions about such announcements. There would a break for socializing after which the workshopping of pieces would begin. The less time spend on introductions etc the more time we would have for the workshopping. One of the participants, X, a long time member, was frequently late & when X arrived we would end up going over all the announcements & answers to questions X would have, questions that had already been answered. 

The result would often mean the time for the actual workshopping of material would be cut in half. Worse yet, to me, was when we looked at X’s submissions any critical comments would result in ‘you don’t understand’ followed by explanations or ‘you clearly aren’t my target audience.’ After about 6 months of this I moved on. X was right I wasn’t their target audience.

Hey! Now you can give me $$$ to defray blog fees & buy coffee – sweet,eh? 

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